Up All Night - “Friendships and Partnerships” Episode 2x01 stills
God, I love this show.
If anyone knows where to find the video of Zach Galifianakis doing stand up back in the day with the large pad of paper - get at me.
WHEN IM TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE TO GO SHOPPING WITH ME
Rules of Emotional Eating
#1: Be all that you can be.
This might make me weep.
Arrested Development News of the Day: Ron Howard tweets again!
This time it’s the front page of a script titled “Michael,” which supports a previous hint by show creator Mitch Hurwitz that episodes will be broken up by character focus.
On Coming Out
Let me start by saying this: I have a huge mouth. I like to talk, eat and laugh - all activities that show off how large my mouth, in fact, is. I often blurt things out without thinking and laugh embarrassingly loud in inappropriate settings, but today, nothing feels more imperative or purposeful than saying what I have to say right now.
Earlier this month, Anderson Cooper publicly announced that he is gay. Since then, many media outlets have marked it as “non-news.” I have not been more disappointed in the media and the American people who peg this as “nothing news” than I am today. I know that they have good intentions by saying, “why are we still celebrating this?” Because by 2012, we should be past it… Right?
But we’re not.
Our first American President has just “come out” in his own way as a supporter of same sex marriage. Just months ago, with the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, gay people were granted the opportunity to openly serve in the military. Just a little over one month ago, the Defense of Marriage Act, an act federally barring gay marriage, was ruled unconstitutional. States are still outlawing gay marriage, most recently, North Carolina - Farewell, Outer Banks, I’ll see you when I can have a big, kitschy gay wedding on your beautiful shores.
The fact is, we’re just now warming up to this. This is news because it is… NEW. Never have public figures been able to come out with such ease. Fear is being eliminated in the queer community because government agencies, society and the minds of individual people are beginning to evolve. Acceptance is becoming more prevalent and we cannot silence ourselves now. We cannot stop coming out, we must not cease being proud of who we are. As Cooper points out, “the tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible” (The Daily Beast).
I am gay. I am out to most of the people in my life – whether by deliberate choice or happenstance (facebook, tumblr, what have you). Let me tell you, coming out is no cake walk. I first came out to my immediate family, starting with my brother and then my parents. My brother was a rock. He took it like it was just something new he learned about me that day – an ideal reaction, in my personal opinion. My parents had a hard time, but what parents wouldn’t. Overall, they have been incredibly valiant and supportive. Of course, my friends were always supportive, and for that, I could not be more thankful or humbled by their sincere ability to selflessly and lovingly accept me without any thought. You are all my heroes.
It was incredibly emotionally taxing at first and even after I’ve done it a bunch, it just sometimes feels like something I shouldn’t have to do. But we do have to do it and it could be worse! I am grateful to the people who came out before me who make my life easier today. The people who stood up for themselves, risking injury and death, at the Stonewall Riots in NYC caused change just by being visible, by standing up to closed minds, they were unafraid to fight for their identity.
I don’t want to “teach” anyone how to react. Circumstances differ and you have to follow your gut. Even if your gut is wrong, the learning process will teach you more than just how to react if someone comes out to you. You will probably learn about your beliefs, the way that you treat people and the ability of humans to grow and adapt. At least I have.
However, I do want all of those non-news sayers and non-allies to consider the plight of young kids who are being bullied, just for being who they are, to the point where they feel like they have nothing left to give. Because of people like Anderson Cooper, President Obama, Ellen DeGeneres and Greg Louganis, those kids have a reason to feel brave. Courage is an internal superpower and we often need to be reminded that our very own Green Lantern lies within us. I feel courage to come out because of the people who came before me and the people who will follow – even that damn DC comic book hero gave me hope. Hopefully, my coming out story will remind someone else how courageous they can be, too.
If we keep talking about being gay, humanizing it, making it more public and helping even the most conservative Christian realize that this is actually a civil rights issue, change can be made. Until then, the fight for equality continues. And the words won’t stop pouring out of us. We will keep talking and coming out until every person feels courageous. It is going to take a hell of a long time, but this fight is personal. It is my story and the stories of so many others who need the world to know that we are gay. We are strong, we are united and we need allies.
Even if you are not gay, I can almost guarantee that you interact with a person of some kind of queer persuasion on a daily basis. I urge you to value their stories and celebrate their strength (even if it is a quiet celebration). Think of a time when you had to be brave and remember that they are experiencing all of those feelings as you speak. It’s actually quite remarkable – their stories will change history and you get to witness it!
Finally, my coming out journey came with its share of setbacks and sadness. There is always someone with a different opinion than yours, and the people with whom I disagree, I wish no ill, because we all have our hardships to endure. I recently interviewed a transgendered comic named Ian Harvie for the comedy website that I write for and he said so fairly, “People don’t know what they don’t know.” He went on to say that some people just don’t know how to talk about things until someone else helps them to understand. Understanding begins with listening, how can we listen if these stories are not making the news?
Each story matters. They make the news for a reason. Please, let’s stop prohibiting, shaming, teasing, bullying and disregarding gay people. America is listening and each voice, one by one, is changing the game. With each person who speaks up, the message seems less and less alien to those who “don’t know what they don’t know.” Let’s start the change here by listening instead of brushing these stories off as non-news. We will not stand for intolerance or inequality any longer. Because my favorite seafood restaurant happens to be in North Carolina, you know my big mouth will not be happy if I have to boycott that state much longer.
Quote of the Day: Happy 65th to Larry David. May he never stop teaching us all the things.